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Moon conjunct/square Pluto in Synastry

If you have a Moon conjunct Pluto with someone you can look forward to feeling attached on a deep level.  This attachment would make it very difficult for two people to not become psychologically linked.

What is a psychological link?  It is when you and another person become vulnerable with each other and exchange a sense of intimacy. This feeling can become very addictive because you become open to parts of yourself that are usually controlled. Moon-Pluto works like deep water that sips into the earth of your foundation. Who you think you are, your personality and social identity become irrelevant when this happens. The couple may experience a sense of crisis about parts of themselves they used to find natural and easy. Suddenly, your emotional reactions, childhood habits and sense of security are put on display.  

You may feel this is happening because your partner has a way of making you feel seen.  You may think that something about them is making you feel safe enough to not hide who you are. The Pluto person has a tendency to skip social politeness and go straight into the emotional being of the Moon person. There is often a sense of not knowing why the attraction is so alluring and strong. In actuality, both people are fascinated with seeing their own hidden, repressed or feral parts come to light. There is a mistaken belief that the other person holds the power to understand us. This belief tends to make people fascinated and obsessed with each other.

The truth is, that the relationship itself can be very revealing and raw. We can’t hide the fact we do things because of some need we have and it feels good to know the other person feels this compulsion too. It also feels very good that it is an unspoken, mysterious connection where both people know they are playing cat and mouse. The fact it is such an unspoken current of the relationship makes it attractive and even sexy. There is a lot of space for both people to project their own animalistic yearning onto the other person and let that fester and grow into a compulsion to become emotionally naked. This aspect tends to override the fact that two people have nothing in common or might not even be one another’s “type”. It creates a pulsing sense of urgency to bond, get emotionally naked and reveal all secrets. This sense of compulsion creates a lot of fear or even guilt in both people. They may ask themselves why do they feel so bewitched with this person? What is it about them that makes it is so important to connect?

Some people experience a sense of repulsion with the other person. They fear their own need to get close to them and they even blame their partner for trying to manipulate them. They might turn to various manipulations in the form of trying to shape and control the relationship dynamic. They want the other person and they would never give up but they deal with their fear by being the one in control of the emotional well-being of the other person (usually the Moon). It is very Moon for the Pluto person to act like a therapist or psychologist so that they can catalog the emotional reactions of the Moon person.

The Moon person when Pluto crosses the line

They do so to ‘help’ the Moon person open up and feel safe. They want Moon to open up so they can feed on the rich emotional nature and sensitivity of their display. It makes Pluto feel powerful and in charge of this kingdom that is the heart of the Moon person. They genuinely revel and enjoy the Moon person’s weakness and displays of instinctive reactions. The Moon person feels very validated that the Pluto person is not running away when seeing them like that. They feel they can be messy, sad, hurt and as dark as can be and still the Pluto person would love them. The problem is that the Pluto person is not always aware that what they really want is to experience their own repressed nature through the Moon person. They may miscalculate their own obsessions and needs when playing this game. For example, they might act cold in order to make the Moon person show how much they need them. By the time the Moon person surrenders and admits they can’t live without the they have repressed their own yearning for them so much that they might lash out in an almost aggressive manner. They would become possessive and fearful and in actuality the Moon person would have the upper hand in this situation. Why? Because they are connected to their truth and emotions and can admit what they need. The Pluto person would intuitively sense this fact and become even more obsessed with finding ways to predict and catalog the emotional reactions of their partner.

If Venus is involved in the Synastry they might do so through kind gestures and nurturing ways. For example, they would want to know what their partner’s favorite food or gift is and use that knowledge when they feel the Moon person is shifting away from the bond. They would show the Moon person with all sorts of actions but would never reveal their own compulsive need to also receive affection and nurturing. It is almost like the Pluto person is living their emotions through the Moon person. This creates a very co-dependent dynamic because both people can’t really fully experience who they are without the other person. The Moon person lost their guard and “skin” to the point where they are very unsafe if the Pluto person stops being their shield. The Pluto person acts like a protective barrier against any outside influence on the Moon person. They can very genuinely keep them safe from harm but this safety means the Moon person must stay in the imaginary fort that Pluto created for them.

The Moon should ask themselves whether this fort is a golden cage, a prison or home? It is usually all three.

The healthier the relationship the more honest Pluto can be about how attached they are to the Moon. The less honest they are with themselves about why they provoke or protect the Moon the more likely this relationship would turn into a cage where they both feel exposed, weak and unfulfilled. Yet, they would always care and love one another because no other person has ever touched them so deeply and exposed them to something they didn’t think was possible in our world that can be called real intimacy. Intimacy not based on anything superficial but on real sharing of two souls. They might recognize the relationship is unhealthy and move on but with a sense of gratitude for the experience. It is also possible they would stay but both would have to transform and be very raw with each other about their fears and their need to feel safe. If they are ready to work together they would become conjoined into an entity that is hard to destruct. The bond would be unbreakable and fiercely loyal.

Sweater Weather- Venus conjunct Moon in Synastry

This is a powerful bonding aspect between two people. The inner comforts and needs of one person meet the loving nature of another in a warm and familiar embrace. A sense of familiarity even with other big differences between the people is underling their nonverbal interactions. The attachment styles of both people would be put on full volume like a soundtrack of a musical in full swing.

The way I would describe it is like the feeling you get when you step into a room or a store and your favorite childhood song is playing quietly in the background. It could be a song you know well and don’t like anymore. The Moon and Venus in everyone charts are not perfect and often have hard aspects from other planets. Nevertheless, a sense of something you know and recognize would seep into your skin around each other. If other aspects suggest attraction and good communication this meeting of Moon-Venus would feel like the most nurturing, warm and caring dynamic that would make you two feel like family or long lost relatives.

In this dynamic the Moon person is most likely to be a little more apprehensive or even unsure about all this warm affection coming from the Venus person. The Venus person would feel protective of the feelings and comfort of the Moon person and would shower them with anything they desire. The love language of the Venus person is going to awaken in the presence of the Moon person. In any shared space the hidden needs of the Moon person would tigger a reaction of affection in the Venus person. An Earth Venus would want to give material comforts while an Air Venus would perhaps offer support and conversation. This aspect is amazing at teaching both people how to show care and love in ways that are very vulnerable and simple.

The Moon and Venus are the feminine part of the psyche and therefore they are both very open to receiving. The inner world of the Moon person is going to melt into the Venus person’s sense of lovability. If the Moon person feels on edge or closed off it can really make the Venus person feel like how they love is not enough. In turn if the Moon person feels like the Venus person is holding back from their affection it can make them feel like a lonely lost child. These two people need one another and it is best they admit it. This aspect awakens all our sensitive desires to be accepted and found beautiful. We want to know the other person can accept our passive parts and respond with kindness.

This aspect is most useful for people who live together or share an artistic hobby. In the case of the former, the way the Venus person shows love during routine daily interactions is going to be very soothing and nurturing to the Moon person and the way the Moon person reacts on instinct to the show of affection from the Venus person is going to be very validating to the Venus person.

In fact, thus dynamic of back and forth can be almost addictive and very tempting to escape into even when real problems need solving. The warm endless pit of the inner embrace between the two lovers can at times be a distraction from important conflicts. It is addictive in the same way a baby can’t let go of this mother or let her ever leave. The attachment if focused on gratification in Venus or Moon form. If the attachment style of either individual is unhealthy it can easily become more like a toxic bond. Yet even in those difficult cases where the Venus-Moon becomes a selfish dynamic of passive taking from the partner a sense of real understanding and empathy allows to overcome and take a breath before suffocation and entanglement engulf the partners in an embrace of pink rosy death.

The attachment is close and sometimes too close for comfort. Space is needed to regenerate the sweetness of the first meetings. Another even better option to balance the sugary touch of Venus-Moon is finding a mutual point of affection for some artistic form of expression. These people can do amazing working on an artistic or creative project where their emotions are not an embarrassing cliché. After all, at times the couple can feel or appear a little too close for comfort. They hold a strange power over each other that is not something that can be articulated in words. They both can give what the other wants but also hurt each other deeply if the old wound of abandonment is triggered.

They could probably do so well when combining their energy to nurture and shower beauty on others. Cooking together, designing the home, choosing outfits to wear, having guests over for cake, cuddling in warm blankets in the cold of winter are all Moon-Venus domains.

The Venus person would always gladly take their jacket off their back and cover the pale shoulders of the Moon person. The Moon person would look up with adoring shiny eyes and the Venus person would lean in and kiss their fluttering eyelashes.

Metaphorically of course.

Pluto opposite Venus in Synastry: Beauty and the Beast

This aspect in Synastry tends to bind people together with an interesting effect. Because it is an opposition, it can often swing between different extremes; between enlightened love (Venus) and fear of vulnerability (Pluto). The emotional roller-coaster tends to bind the couple together because “we have been through so much and we are still here.” This is a typical syndrome for better and for worse.

This is a couple that together can learn a lot about being vulnerable and looking their biggest fears in the face. The Venus person learns that their love is valuable and can heal the pain and fear of the Pluto person. The Pluto person learns that love is not a weakness and over time becomes more protective, gentle and caring towards the Venus person. It is also true that the Venus person can act more Plutonian over time because they learn that the Pluto partner does not always respect “softness”. The real key lesson here for Venus is not to fall prey to this scenario and still stand by their values. If Venus allows the Pluto person to dominate them in the relationship, they will in effect only escalate the bad behavior of Pluto. Venus must stand strong in its conviction that is it lovable and beautiful no matter what.

Pluto who is secretly very deeply attracted and magnetized by this promise of true love will learn to open up and let go of controlling behaviors. Of course, a lot depends on the state of these planets in the natal charts of the individuals. Nevertheless, even in relationships that don’t last long, both partners transform on a deep level and learn a lot about what love means to them.

I should also add that these relationships tend to be very compulsive in the early stages. The couple knows that something unique and deep is at play but they can’t articulate it. They might feel that there is a potential for something powerful. Venus can feel that a great deal of protection, devotion and care is possible, while Pluto might feel that finally they can share their dark side with someone who won’t run away. This is also one of those aspects that like wine gets better with time. So if you are struggling I would suggest both partners take a step back and ask themselves what they value in the other person. Sometimes the intensity of this connection can be too overwhelming so being able to take time apart is important.

People with natal Pluto aspects would find it more familiar (not easier) to deal with this opposition. The Pluto person is going to struggle with their worst nature coming into play, even if normally they are the sweetest person around. Venus knows how to push the buttons of Pluto too! The magical charm of Venus is often very self-indulgent and not always willing to go into the deep dark waters of Pluto. Pluto mostly struggles with a lot of old baggage and fears that don’t relate to the actual relationship.

At the end of the day, this aspect requires a lot of self-honesty so that both partners don’t misuse the power they hold over each other. The reward is a truly intimate relationship that is strong like an armor. A couple that manages this aspect in a constructive way can withstand struggles and anything thrown at them and still stay together. I would note, that it is important that this couple doesn’t only stay together because of the difficulties they survived or the amazing sexual connection. The Synastry chart must have some additional aspects that allow space for fun, play and softness. We are all vulnerable and sometimes it is alright to not go into our pain and take a break. My last suggestion is that the couple openly talk about their fears so they don’t simmer under the surface and erupt into struggles later. Overall, this aspect is very passionate, intimate and healing.

Uranus conjunct Venus in Synastry

A conjunction is a very powerful aspect between two charts- it is a real meeting of two forces between people that blend into something new. It is not an easy aspect but one that is very strong and can paint a relationship more vividly than any easy aspect.

Uranus is foremost a collective planet of ideas for a better future and when meeting another person’s Venus it creates a ripple effect of opening up new possibilities. The person who feels it first is the Venus person, they feel like they stepped into a new reality where former rules don’t apply. It makes them step away from old notions about love, dating and sexuality. What they value becomes insignificant against the force of attraction they feel towards the Uranus person. It is not a heavy feeling but one of excitement and renewal. They become charged with new dreams for the feature and start seeing love as something much more pure and simple. This feeling can be frightening because it is sudden and electric but it can also be very uplifting and inspiring. The Uranus person makes the Venus person reconsider their choices and what they value in relationships because now they see those old standards are not needed for love to happen.

The Uranus person in turn, feels that their own unique perspective and higher mind is being appreciated by the Venus person. They feel that they have something good to offer and that in turn, inspired them to open up and develop their own Uranian side- making hopes for a better feature, puzzling out problems and finding generosity beyond ego. This is not an emotional aspects but one that can create a lot of energy that makes a new relationship worth the effort and time. Both people feel like they were baptized in a fresh lake of water and came out with new strength to face the world. 

It is a great aspect if one of both people want to channel this energy into their creative work. Artists, musicians and even scientists can benefit from this new perspective that is achieved. Even if both people are otherwise incompatible, they can gain a lot from a short interaction as they cross each others path. This is a great aspect to have if you want the person you date to help you do what you once feared. It is very easygoing but also high minded because both people don’t demand anything from the other. Instead, they bask in the light this energy omits and can appreciate what each has to offer. The Venus person offers something warm and concrete to the Uranus person who starts feeling they have a container of safety in this connection in which to grow and develop their own individuality, creativity and idealism. The Venus person feels that their tastes become more flexible, they start trying new things, new styles, new foods, new art- all as a result of having a more vivid perception of reality. They start wanting to touch, steel and see something that before seemed gray. The world is painted in colors that are enchanting and new- when they meet the Uranus person. 

I think the Venus person has a healing effect on the Uranus person. They make them feel that they are being understood and appreciated for who they are in a very open way. The Venus person simply feels that they are getting to know a new side to how they love and what they want from other people.

The natal aspects matter a great deal to how this conjunction manifests. If for example, the Uranus person has  very challenging aspects nataly to their Uranus then the Venus person will be the one making them change. The Uranus person will feel all those challenges are being basked in warmth, love and acceptance. It might be a slower process of change and attraction that develops after some discomfort. It will not be the swift attraction the is usually associated with this aspect.

It is also possible that the Venus person will feel they are being pushed beyond their limits  and comfort zone. They may not be ready or want to experience life form a fresh set of values. They may feel threatened by the Uranus person and will fight for what thiner consider beautiful and valuable. Even in such a case, a strong feeling of no judgment and openness will prevail. They may fight against the effect of the Uranus person but without long lasting hard feelings. They will become more logical and less emotional in how they react to this situation. They will feel they can express what they value and love and the Uranus person will still accept it. Therefore, the instinct to fight and hate the Uranus person will simply die down into a slow simmer of good will and friendship.This aspect can be great between co-workers on some project or people doing humanitarian work together. Between romantic partners this aspect may allow them to never become bored with each other. They will bring something exciting into a life of routine of rising kids and paying bills. They manage together to make the most boring activity seem more fun and light. In this way it makes relationships last a long time. Yet the union  or marriage will have to be flexible to the various inner and outer changes. The Uranus person will hold the key and the Venus person will need to react. As various transits hit Uranus, the need to be flexible and to change up routines will manifest. Every time there will be a hard transit to Uranus the relationship will be shared up into a mess. Meanwhile, the Venus person will continue on a journey of developing their love nature as the only way to make this love survive.

This is ultimately an aspect that works for people that expect that a relationship is about growing together as individuals. Hopefully, if you have this aspect you are searching for this kind of connection. If the need for flexibility becomes too difficult is a good idea to be honest and open about it. Both the Uranus and Venus person will have a positive reaction towards openness in a relationship. They key is not to speak or react from a a place of emotional turmoil. Speak calmly and remember you are not being judged. This is a haven of acceptance and growth for both of you that is very special.