Moon conjunct/square Pluto in Synastry

If you have a Moon conjunct Pluto with someone you can look forward to feeling attached on a deep level.  This attachment would make it very difficult for two people to not become psychologically linked.

What is a psychological link?  It is when you and another person become vulnerable with each other and exchange a sense of intimacy. This feeling can become very addictive because you become open to parts of yourself that are usually controlled. Moon-Pluto works like deep water that sips into the earth of your foundation. Who you think you are, your personality and social identity become irrelevant when this happens. The couple may experience a sense of crisis about parts of themselves they used to find natural and easy. Suddenly, your emotional reactions, childhood habits and sense of security are put on display.  

You may feel this is happening because your partner has a way of making you feel seen.  You may think that something about them is making you feel safe enough to not hide who you are. The Pluto person has a tendency to skip social politeness and go straight into the emotional being of the Moon person. There is often a sense of not knowing why the attraction is so alluring and strong. In actuality, both people are fascinated with seeing their own hidden, repressed or feral parts come to light. There is a mistaken belief that the other person holds the power to understand us. This belief tends to make people fascinated and obsessed with each other.

The truth is, that the relationship itself can be very revealing and raw. We can’t hide the fact we do things because of some need we have and it feels good to know the other person feels this compulsion too. It also feels very good that it is an unspoken, mysterious connection where both people know they are playing cat and mouse. The fact it is such an unspoken current of the relationship makes it attractive and even sexy. There is a lot of space for both people to project their own animalistic yearning onto the other person and let that fester and grow into a compulsion to become emotionally naked. This aspect tends to override the fact that two people have nothing in common or might not even be one another’s “type”. It creates a pulsing sense of urgency to bond, get emotionally naked and reveal all secrets. This sense of compulsion creates a lot of fear or even guilt in both people. They may ask themselves why do they feel so bewitched with this person? What is it about them that makes it is so important to connect?

Some people experience a sense of repulsion with the other person. They fear their own need to get close to them and they even blame their partner for trying to manipulate them. They might turn to various manipulations in the form of trying to shape and control the relationship dynamic. They want the other person and they would never give up but they deal with their fear by being the one in control of the emotional well-being of the other person (usually the Moon). It is very Moon for the Pluto person to act like a therapist or psychologist so that they can catalog the emotional reactions of the Moon person.

The Moon person when Pluto crosses the line

They do so to ‘help’ the Moon person open up and feel safe. They want Moon to open up so they can feed on the rich emotional nature and sensitivity of their display. It makes Pluto feel powerful and in charge of this kingdom that is the heart of the Moon person. They genuinely revel and enjoy the Moon person’s weakness and displays of instinctive reactions. The Moon person feels very validated that the Pluto person is not running away when seeing them like that. They feel they can be messy, sad, hurt and as dark as can be and still the Pluto person would love them. The problem is that the Pluto person is not always aware that what they really want is to experience their own repressed nature through the Moon person. They may miscalculate their own obsessions and needs when playing this game. For example, they might act cold in order to make the Moon person show how much they need them. By the time the Moon person surrenders and admits they can’t live without the they have repressed their own yearning for them so much that they might lash out in an almost aggressive manner. They would become possessive and fearful and in actuality the Moon person would have the upper hand in this situation. Why? Because they are connected to their truth and emotions and can admit what they need. The Pluto person would intuitively sense this fact and become even more obsessed with finding ways to predict and catalog the emotional reactions of their partner.

If Venus is involved in the Synastry they might do so through kind gestures and nurturing ways. For example, they would want to know what their partner’s favorite food or gift is and use that knowledge when they feel the Moon person is shifting away from the bond. They would show the Moon person with all sorts of actions but would never reveal their own compulsive need to also receive affection and nurturing. It is almost like the Pluto person is living their emotions through the Moon person. This creates a very co-dependent dynamic because both people can’t really fully experience who they are without the other person. The Moon person lost their guard and “skin” to the point where they are very unsafe if the Pluto person stops being their shield. The Pluto person acts like a protective barrier against any outside influence on the Moon person. They can very genuinely keep them safe from harm but this safety means the Moon person must stay in the imaginary fort that Pluto created for them.

The Moon should ask themselves whether this fort is a golden cage, a prison or home? It is usually all three.

The healthier the relationship the more honest Pluto can be about how attached they are to the Moon. The less honest they are with themselves about why they provoke or protect the Moon the more likely this relationship would turn into a cage where they both feel exposed, weak and unfulfilled. Yet, they would always care and love one another because no other person has ever touched them so deeply and exposed them to something they didn’t think was possible in our world that can be called real intimacy. Intimacy not based on anything superficial but on real sharing of two souls. They might recognize the relationship is unhealthy and move on but with a sense of gratitude for the experience. It is also possible they would stay but both would have to transform and be very raw with each other about their fears and their need to feel safe. If they are ready to work together they would become conjoined into an entity that is hard to destruct. The bond would be unbreakable and fiercely loyal.

Pluto in the 7th house

Having Pluto in the 7th house means that you encounter your own power through other people. This is a bit similar to having Mars in the 7th house but less out in the open. 

You are a person that has been made to reject your own power and your own sense of control over you life. It can often feel growing up that other people are trying to tell you what to do or manage your life in some way. I imagine in my mind the image of a young child star who is being yelled at by their stage mom to go and preform. I also imagine someone who had to learn very young that people don’t always play fair. 

Relationships with other people are where you get to feel like you have something about you that is sort of like an invisible fighting spirit. You like to encounter people who challenge you in some psychological manner so that you allow your own muscles to flex and play.  

Usually, you go through different extremes in your relationships. Sometimes you get dominated, controlled and even abused in some cases while in other cases you are the one who is in control. 

Pluto in the 7th house is a great placement for investigative journalists, lawyers and anyone who works at uncovering the “dirt”  in other people’s lives. You know so very well that everyone has secrets and you can make them talk. 

There is an alluring sweet and seductive aura about you that makes you a magnet for all sorts of strange people and situations. You are attractive when you forget who you are and appear vulnerable. And yet! Anyone who dares underestimate you or think you are weak is in for a surprise. You are actually very powerful and capable and have an iron will that grows with age and allows you to do well in many areas. 

As with many Pluto placements, there is usually a betterment over time. Early years could be full of conflicts with other people and authority figures. It is not advisable for you to talk about your success in public because you naturally arouse jealousy without meaning. 

Pluto has been in scorpio for some time now and so we can assume you are a Taurus rising, at least for some of you readers. You are naturally physically pleasant and grounded in your body. You accept yourself as you are…Skin, fat, scars and all  and wish other people were equally comfortable with their physical self. There is a natural beauty to you that doesn’t need anything artificial. You are sensual in your acceptance of sexuality as one would accept rain and snow. It is magical but natural to you. 

In fact, you hate anything that is a lie or like plastic. You like things real, honest and natural and would not tolerate lying for anyone. You can be somewhat blunt and brutal for some types. 

If you are still in the hurt stage of your life it could be you would have a hard time trusting anyone. Hopefully, you would grow to reclaim your responsibility to show other people what it is like to live honestly and survive anything. There is something unapologetic about you that seems to be almost feral in nature. It is not seen with open eyes..But if you close your eyes and turn the lights off…You shine like a bright beacon of courage. 

Making commitments to another person like in a marriage can be a source of fear for you. You have learned people change and nothing stays the same and can’t imagine anyone being stable enough to accept your own changeable nature. You should probably give it a try and be surprised by the deep love you can have.

Don’t let anyone try and lower you into the gutter. Many people will try and make you cross a line and maybe even worse. Always stick by the laws and do what is right because you could fall from grace through other people, especially if you have an intimate relationship.

But you already know that, don’t you?

That is why you have a fear from getting to close and that is why you must know who is getting under your skin. Relationships change you and allow you to deal with al these feelings of being overpowered. Soon you will step into your own shadow and will see the Sun shine through at a part of you that you kept hidden even from yourself.

You can rule an empire so why are you letting another human rule you? 

I want to mention that the 7th house is ruled by Libra and therefore this placement tends to be a bit sweet and light looking on the outside. It is not 8th house dark energy but more sugary. It is not a heavy energy but more of a dark spicy essence that is emitted into the undercurrents and is captivating in its allure. 

The focus is about taking the trash out of society and shining light on certain aspects of human engagement, putting the dark dusty corners into the spotlight.

Love is a Battlefield is a Pluto in the 7th house song. I would like to think you would fight for love and the idea that love is something to be taken hold of. 

famous examples: Rihanna. Remember Chris Brown? Now all we talk about is her company Fenty. 

J. K. Rowling is another example. Writing about the dark side of things and bringing it into the light. She escaped an abusive relationship with her baby daughter and out of her depression wrote a book that changed the world forever.

Hard Venus-Saturn natal aspects: Love unbound

If you have the square, conjunction and opposition of Venus and Saturn in your natal chart this article is for you.

These aspects differ in flavor and outcome but have a common theme that is important to acknowledge. What actually happens is that if you have these aspects you are a person that is very affectionate and caring about other people and you take your relationships VERY seriously. The problem is that for whatever reason usually stemming from how you grew up and your early social experiences related to what you value and your self-esteem you tend to kind of have misplaced affection.

You tend to withdraw from the other person you love just when the relationship starts to open up and actually offer you intimacy and connection. When the relationship becomes intimate you experience a sense of fear that this relationship needs to follow the RULES or you can’t follow your heart.

You really desire solid, good, reliable and loyal relationships. You care a lot and have a strong sense of what is right and wrong in society. You have very good ethics and ideas about how relationships should be like to be considered “good”, anything that is below that standard you won’t commit to.

You can have many relationships in your life that don’t fit the rules but you will never marry or commit fully unless they fit your idea of what is “right”. The sad truth is it is really a way of thinking is something you cling to because it is masking and hiding your own sense of VULNERABILITY.

These ideas you hold about relationships having to follow steps, stages, rules, morals is really a mechanism you developed over time to protect yourself.

You just don’t like fully marching into something that in fact really be good for you. You learned as a child and as a teen from several probably shaking experiences that connection to other people is at times scarring. You wanted to connect but it was blocked or someone to said you had to be a certain way to receive it.

Maybe you had to act like a responsible adult or maybe you just had to follow the rules someone else made to deserve the love you wanted. The giving from other people was blocked and so you learned love and care is conditional. You started to believe only if you followed a certain path you would deserve love. As an adult you now believe you need to hold a high standard for yourself and other people. The exact reason or way this showed in your life would depend on the signs and houses of Saturn and Venus.

Generally speaking, you have this sense of “I’m not good enough”. You may believe that only when or if you reach some goal you can start having the relationship you dream of.

“I’m not good enough until I…Have a career”

“I’m not good enough until I…Look better”

“I’m not good enough until I…Prove my talents”

There is always a reason why you or the other person is not good enough to fully open up your heart. The tricky thing with this aspect is that often you can become just us blocking towards others who want to get closer to you. Secretly you are deeply hurt or angry about how you were treated. Often times, you have a great relationship with someone especially if other indicator in your natal chart point to that until that person wants to fully hug you, love you and care for you and suddenly you recoil because the hurt part of you wakes up. That fear makes you start thinking how that person might actually not be trustworthy or “up to the standard”. This is your mind trying to protect you from what it remembered caused it pain.

I am not saying you shouldn’t have standards and protect yourself but if a relationship has proved itself over time to be good and loyal don’t let those thoughts take over. If you start thinking that your partner needs to prove themselves to you or follow some formal behavior that is SATURN at work.

The truth is no one will ever find love safe because love needs vulnerability.

Is it worth the risk?

YES

I don’t think you should change who you are. I do think you should be aware of why patterns in your relationships repeat. The good side of hard Venus-Saturn aspects is that you are very capable of having high quality relationships that are long lasting and loyal.

I should also mention that often this can manifest in you choosing very irresponsible people who would eventually reject you or not want to commit. It is important to strike a balance between standards and an open heart.

Wrong person for a Venus-Saturn native: Irresponsible, childish, fearing commitment, lacking morals or goals.

If you find yourself choosing immature people who you need to treat like a parent or a boss this means you are trying to heal your own trauma and you still believe you are not good enough. Someone who can make you feel safe and you can rely on would help you make the best of this aspect.

I want to end this article by saying I don’t agree with Astrologers who say these aspects suggests you will always stay alone. It is true you can marry later in life or take time to do it. You may feel you need to wait or accomplish something in life first and that is okay. The important thing is to value yourself not for what you accomplish or only when other people say you are worthy.

YOU ARE WORTHY RIGHT NOW

Descendent in Aquarius

If your rising sign at birth is Leo, your 7th house ruler is the electric, royal and innovative Aquarius. The 7th house is not only who you attract but what people come into your life to help you grow. Relationships would teach you how to relate to the world from a perspective that is concerned with community, groups and government. You naturally have something about you that makes people listen to you. Your close relationships would show you how to make fair use of that power.

It could be that you don’t care a lot about certain issues or ideas until you meet a partner that challenges how you view the world. The partner you would commit to (not the lover or short relationship) is a person who probably has some social status, be it good or bad, they are someone people know and notice. You would want a partner you can respect and who has their own individual opinions and who is not afraid to be themselves. It is also likely they would be annoying to you at first or that you don’t even like them right away. This is sometimes a classic hate-love romance drama that ends with a relationship that is playful, fun and exciting.

Because you hold yourself with a certain integrity people who are confident tend to be attracted to you. The partner would notice you in that setting where you show a talent or an ability. If you are very shy and quit, there is still something about you that makes you stand out in some area. You could meet that partner through some group in which you “shine” or an organization in which you volunteer. I always suggest that single people with Leo rising join in a community where they can show something they are good at. This is where you have good chances meeting a new person who would change your life.

Aquarius on the Descendent can create relationships that are a little dramatic or on and off, but not always. Many times it simply creates a very rich relationship that is full of conversation, learning, work or some creative project. Leo rising people generally do well on working with their partner and even making it a life mission. I would suggest looking where Uranus and Saturn are located in your natal chart to find out more.

For example, my friend has Uranus in the 5th house conjunct Venus (in Capricorn). She and her partner have a business together, he is an architect and she a designer. Someone with a lot of hard aspects to Uranus would find that relationships start very fast and end just as suddenly. In extreme cases the partner could be a “mad genius” or “political figure” who is very hard to live with. I also see that the partner could have some fame and status that is very appealing to you but eventually could take away from the intimate connection you seek.

The trick for you is to become so interested and good at something that you can be self-sufficient and happy on your own. There is a danger you would rely on your partner for some social power that does not belong to you. This is because your relationship is here to show you how to care about wider issues. If you are having a current struggle with a partner I would suggest to get interested in something that relates to humanity at large.

The moment you put your attention in that space…The relationship would become more stable. In similar fashion to the Scorpio Descendent, you would transform a lot through your relationships. It won’t be a deep psychological transformation but the kind that allows fresh air into your reality. You could meet many new people, change careers or move as a result of the relationship. Even if you stay in the same house and job, the relationship would make you see how your life fits within society and what you could do to become more connected to those around you. Most importantly, relationships make you more connected to your own individuality, talents and uniqueness.

Celebrities with Aquarius DC you can look into:

Selena Gomez, on and off relationship and her finding her voice through it.

Kate Moss, dating genius rockers and royalty. Finding her own space without them.

Alfred Hitchcock and princess Grace Kelly.

Mary-Kate Olsen.

Gemini Ascendant: the old child

Gemini Ascendant people tend to hide a high level of intelligence under a mask of playful cleverness. They often don’t like to sound or appear too serious in public and prefer to communicate their ideas in a more accessible manner. Often, they have a very vivid ability to convey a lot through body language! They make great impressions of accents and characters. They are quick thinkers and avid book readers and possible musicians and writers. They collect information and knowledge about their environment at lightning speed. They need someone to bounce ideas off of and enjoy playing devil’s advocate.

People matter a lot to them and their friends may take a central role in how they feel. This is because they can easily feel blocked if they have no one to share and “play” with them.  If they can’t express or speak up about what is on their mind they tend to become depressed.  Some Gemini’s rising people are less verbal and more visual but even in that case, they might express well through poetry. They go through phases of being very chatty and silent as a stone. They are generally not too emotional and don’t care to protect their heart. In fact, they care if something is “interesting” not if something is morally right or if it feels good.

In the sense, they are not selfish people because they are less focused on indulging their feelings. Yet, their morals are easily clouded by that same search for meaning. The journey can take a central stage not the destination. This makes them very open-minded but not always consistent. Even the most dogmatic and idealistic types tend to become disillusioned with their beliefs at some point along the years. They tend to be social chameleon’s that are hard to truly get to know. They will not show the same face to two different people. That makes them usually highly popular and well-liked because they are fun to be around.  At the same time, people might feel confused and unsure where they stand with the Gemini rising.  They may never know if they are truly liked or just tolerated for the sake of “interest”.

Over time, a Gemini rising will develop a more solid conviction about the world and their place in it. They tend to stick to the big important ideas and are very loyal to making an impact by communicating those convictions. As you can guess, Gemini rising people have a natural talent in politics and can use that to their advantage. They are brilliant at juggling people and can be very appealing. Like a child caught stealing cookies, they have a natural appearance of innocence that gets them out of trouble. They tend to have something pure and youthful about them, they’re eyes are often clear and sparkling with mirth. Their body language expressive and lively and their energy infectious. The men are usually tall, with lean long limbs and a high forehead. The women have a doll-like sweet appearance and a delicate body. Many enjoy dressing up in costumes or changing their appearance into something more exciting and colorful.

Sagittarius rules their 7th house, therefore they need to balance they need to information with bigger (Jupiter) convictions and beliefs. They must have a larger vision that directs them in life…Some bigger goal. They may seek this direction in a foreign culture or by going on a journey. Doing this will be highly beneficial to them and help them understand what they are really looking for. Dating a partner that makes them have a new larger view of life is very attractive to them.

If we continue and look at the signs that rule the houses we can see other patterns emerge. The 2nd house is ruled by Cancer, this means that Gemini rising people have a sentimental spot for their family. They may show a side that is more feeling only towards those closest to them. They have a lot of memories from childhood that makes up their sense of inner security.

They can become nostalgic for their childhood and all the games they played. It also means that they have a good instinct for money and making it come to them. They may dream of a big warm happy home for themselves.

The 3rd house is ruled by Leo, this means they need to shine and be heard. They need a public to hear them out and listen to their ideas. They could have some ego battles with their brothers and sisters. Yet, they are also somewhat proud and protective of their extended family. They may have had crazy adventures during school years…And played some pranks or got into battles with bullies.

The 4th house is ruled by Virgo, probably they learned a lot of their communicative ability at home. One of both of the parents was very well learned and passed that on. As adults, they expressed this wisdom and knowledge in a different way. Maybe they rebelled against the more heavy and structured way information was passed on by the family. They may have disliked the rules and details that were forced on their mind. The home was probably nurturing to them on a low level. Thye may have got what they needed but at some point felt they needed to leave and achieve their dreams.

The 5th house is ruled by Libra, this means they are very adept at social gatherings and have a beautiful way of expressing themselves. They are also romantics and enjoy the “game” of love. They can become very polite and diplomatic during courtship. They are charmers! This also means that achieving their individuality can be done by learning to get along with people and being more diplomatic.

The 6th house is ruled by Scorpio, this means that stress can show up as health issues. Stress around sexuality or secrets that they can’t talk about especially. Daily routines can be where they feel they need to have more control. They can also be secretive about their job or what they actually do day to do. They like to have a private bubble to escape into. In that place, they are kings and queens.

The 8th house is ruled by Capricorn, they will work very hard to achieve their ambitions and secure money. Thye can inherit money from other men or through management. They may be good at dealing with money because they show responsibility around that area. They are somewhat conservative about spending cash. They won’t but low-quality things or things they don’t need. They have a secret instinct about money and other people.

The 9th house is ruled by Aquarius, this means they will meet many friends through higher education or travel. They will not follow the rules about how to do either of these things. They may have a hard time staying in one school or institution if it means following the rules. They may have a very sharp brilliant mind that grasps philosophy or science with ease.

The 10th house is ruled by Pisces, they may have unrealistic ideas about who they want to be in society. They may have big dreams about success and social standing. They are elusive to the public and can be a chameleon depending on the job. They have an acting ability. They need who they become to be of service to society.

Hope you enjoyed! 🙂

Chiron in the Houses

Chiron in our chart is that painful itchy spot in our psyche. It is that place where we feel most vulnerable and least capable of dealing with rationally. I don’t think it ever stops hurting…But we learn to deal with it better.

We must remember we ALL have our pain to carry. I think Chiron calls for acceptance of that wound, allow it to scar and wear it to battle with pride. Sometimes it will have bad days, it will burn and hurt to the bottom of your soul. Some days you can look at it and be proud of how far you have come- regardless of the pain. You will only see the scar but it will be numb.

What about healing you ask? Well, Chiron is often our most “wise” aspect. It shows us great pain but also the reasons for it. The healing is made of acceptance and wisdom gained… At least in my experience, completely healing a Chiron wound never means not experiencing it again. Instead, I find the potential for healing has more to do with other people. Chiron shows the area where you can help other people heal. That has been my experience of it. I have Chiron in the 11th house, so friendships/bullying in groups are the areas of pain. I become like a small weak child it those areas when that wound is reopened. This is usually related to childhood conditioning and “triggers”.

My healing of Chiron is about wanting and knowing how to help those people in society that feel “different” and strange. Having known the feeling myself I know what they need and feel very passionate about protecting people who are bullied. So yes, Chiron is both that small scared child and wise old man.

In a natal chart, I would definitely pay attention if you have Chiron conjunct an angel or aspecting other planets. Transits too can show you how your Chiron story tends to play out.

Chiron in the first house: Your greatest wound is related to your sense of identity and importance. Early life experiences didn’t allow you to express your personality in a way that fits what you want to convey. You may have been bullied or ridiculed as a child. You appear vulnerable to other people.

Chiron in the second house: You have a lot of pain around feeling safe and secure. You may lack the structure of support to feel like you have a place to fall on a rainy day. You may hurt over matters of self-value and stability.

Chiron in the third house: You may have felt inadequate in school. Maybe had speech/learning hardships. Teachers and neighbors may have been too harsh. You have pain over being misunderstood.

Chiron in the fourth house: You have pain about your family roots and past. Maybe your relatives have big problems that effected you. The family may have been too weak to defend and take care of you.

Chiron in the 5th house: You may have received backlashes from people when expressing yourself. You have pain around your creative impulse and individuality. Something may have happened when you were letting your guard down and “having fun”. Romance may be an area where things got twisted.

Chiron in the 6th house: You have pain about being of service to other people. Maybe daily chores and things that seem mundane cause you a lot of anxiety. The pain is around getting things done and worrying about health.

Chiron in the 7th house: Your relationships may have caused a lot of painful conflicts. You seem to get uncalled for reactions from others. Long-term intimacy is you vulnerable area. You also really seek approval from other people when in a low place.

Chiron in the 8th house: You have pain around secrets/ family money and values. Sex is an area you understand well but can get lost in. Hidden forces cause you fear or trigger obsessive responses/addictions.

Chiron in the 9th house: You may have felt you are not smart enough. Your personal philosophy may not fit in. You may reject the idea of higher education. You have pain around feeling free to do and go where you want. You have views that make you an outsider.

Chiron in the 10th house: You may have pain around your status in society. You may feel no matter what you achieve you are still not deserving. You may take a hit to your image when you feel your strongest. You can’t join the “high” club (in your mind).

Chiron in the 11th house: You may have pain around friendships and groups. Groups may be a source of rejection or bullying. You are an underdog. Groups cause anxiety.

Chiron in the 12th house: You have deep pain that comes through in dreams and messages. You have pain about society and some unknown truth. Fears that come through the veil of existence. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Uranus conjunct Venus in Synastry

A conjunction is a very powerful aspect between two charts- it is a real meeting of two forces between people that blend into something new. It is not an easy aspect but one that is very strong and can paint a relationship more vividly than any easy aspect.

Uranus is foremost a collective planet of ideas for a better future and when meeting another person’s Venus it creates a ripple effect of opening up new possibilities. The person who feels it first is the Venus person, they feel like they stepped into a new reality where former rules don’t apply. It makes them step away from old notions about love, dating and sexuality. What they value becomes insignificant against the force of attraction they feel towards the Uranus person. It is not a heavy feeling but one of excitement and renewal. They become charged with new dreams for the feature and start seeing love as something much more pure and simple. This feeling can be frightening because it is sudden and electric but it can also be very uplifting and inspiring. The Uranus person makes the Venus person reconsider their choices and what they value in relationships because now they see those old standards are not needed for love to happen.

The Uranus person in turn, feels that their own unique perspective and higher mind is being appreciated by the Venus person. They feel that they have something good to offer and that in turn, inspired them to open up and develop their own Uranian side- making hopes for a better feature, puzzling out problems and finding generosity beyond ego. This is not an emotional aspects but one that can create a lot of energy that makes a new relationship worth the effort and time. Both people feel like they were baptized in a fresh lake of water and came out with new strength to face the world. 

It is a great aspect if one of both people want to channel this energy into their creative work. Artists, musicians and even scientists can benefit from this new perspective that is achieved. Even if both people are otherwise incompatible, they can gain a lot from a short interaction as they cross each others path. This is a great aspect to have if you want the person you date to help you do what you once feared. It is very easygoing but also high minded because both people don’t demand anything from the other. Instead, they bask in the light this energy omits and can appreciate what each has to offer. The Venus person offers something warm and concrete to the Uranus person who starts feeling they have a container of safety in this connection in which to grow and develop their own individuality, creativity and idealism. The Venus person feels that their tastes become more flexible, they start trying new things, new styles, new foods, new art- all as a result of having a more vivid perception of reality. They start wanting to touch, steel and see something that before seemed gray. The world is painted in colors that are enchanting and new- when they meet the Uranus person. 

I think the Venus person has a healing effect on the Uranus person. They make them feel that they are being understood and appreciated for who they are in a very open way. The Venus person simply feels that they are getting to know a new side to how they love and what they want from other people.

The natal aspects matter a great deal to how this conjunction manifests. If for example, the Uranus person has  very challenging aspects nataly to their Uranus then the Venus person will be the one making them change. The Uranus person will feel all those challenges are being basked in warmth, love and acceptance. It might be a slower process of change and attraction that develops after some discomfort. It will not be the swift attraction the is usually associated with this aspect.

It is also possible that the Venus person will feel they are being pushed beyond their limits  and comfort zone. They may not be ready or want to experience life form a fresh set of values. They may feel threatened by the Uranus person and will fight for what thiner consider beautiful and valuable. Even in such a case, a strong feeling of no judgment and openness will prevail. They may fight against the effect of the Uranus person but without long lasting hard feelings. They will become more logical and less emotional in how they react to this situation. They will feel they can express what they value and love and the Uranus person will still accept it. Therefore, the instinct to fight and hate the Uranus person will simply die down into a slow simmer of good will and friendship.This aspect can be great between co-workers on some project or people doing humanitarian work together. Between romantic partners this aspect may allow them to never become bored with each other. They will bring something exciting into a life of routine of rising kids and paying bills. They manage together to make the most boring activity seem more fun and light. In this way it makes relationships last a long time. Yet the union  or marriage will have to be flexible to the various inner and outer changes. The Uranus person will hold the key and the Venus person will need to react. As various transits hit Uranus, the need to be flexible and to change up routines will manifest. Every time there will be a hard transit to Uranus the relationship will be shared up into a mess. Meanwhile, the Venus person will continue on a journey of developing their love nature as the only way to make this love survive.

This is ultimately an aspect that works for people that expect that a relationship is about growing together as individuals. Hopefully, if you have this aspect you are searching for this kind of connection. If the need for flexibility becomes too difficult is a good idea to be honest and open about it. Both the Uranus and Venus person will have a positive reaction towards openness in a relationship. They key is not to speak or react from a a place of emotional turmoil. Speak calmly and remember you are not being judged. This is a haven of acceptance and growth for both of you that is very special. 

Venus in Pisces

A sparkling fountain of dreams…Some of them broken others taking wing.

This is a truly enchanting natal placement if somewhat elusive. Venus strives to own beauty as it sees it, co-ruled by Taurus and Libra, the beauty of Venus is that of the sensual kind or the esthetic abstract ideal. 

Think…The scent of rich perfume (Taurus) or the glossy bottle holding it (Libra).

What would a Pisces Venus do with the bottle? It will hold the perfume bottle and admire it and then drop int on the ground and watch the shards of glass sparkle in the sun, musing about the brokenness of all beauty…You get the picture. 

Pisces is not about ownership but about letting go. Venus in Pisces appreciates what can not be captured or owned by regular means. It enjoys the elusive ideal that can’t be defined.

More than anything it enjoys atmosphere of enchantment and fantasy, This can be captured through artistic means like photography, music, poetry…Often something slightly dreamy and sad about it. Venus in Pisces enjoys the process of making the sensual and factual into something more- by elevating it into realms beyond the mundane. 

Because Pisces Venus is ruled by Neptune, the love life of these natives is often wrought with misunderstandings and broken hearts. If Neptune makes hard aspect to personal planets it can create a yearning for soul union that is too strong to be realized with any mortal human. 

Even if Neptune is well aspected in the chart, some elements of this story will sound familiar: Falling deeply in love, being disappointed, finding out it was all a lie…

On the other hand, this Venus is a true heart breaker itself. Why? Because the love it gives may at first be directed at one person but ultimately it is directed towards humanity, it is not a personal possessive kind of love. It doesn’t want to own another person or be owned in return. It may seek deep true love and connection, be generous and giving, but at some point it won’t feel right. 

If Venus in Pisces is not mature it can attempt to find all that “humanity” in one person. They may elevate the person they love to a godly status. Imagine living up to that! 

If it is mature, it will instead give love to the person they care about well still keeping some of their heart for their ideals and dreams. They may learn to balance soul-union with a healthy detachment. 

This Venus thrives in its ability to be somewhat detached. No matter how difficult things get it can find true joy and beauty in something higher.

The ability to elevate anything into a fantasy makes them talented artists and creators. They can make great filmmakers of example (Neptune rules filming) or even actors. Certainty, they are very compassionate and care a lot about people ( as long as it is not one person) so various professions that involve caring for the sick and needy suite them.

This Venus is a better placement for females- at least in current society. Venus in Pisces Males tend to want to rescue a female that has fallen from grace (have you seen Pretty Woman?) or they can stay bachelors for a long time as no woman fits their ideal of love. In a female chart it will give grace to the expression of affection.

I hope I managed to paint a picture of this Venus: It may create an enchanted forest- a true a dream of beauty but it always has its darkness. It is the kind of darkness like a siren: Enchanting but leading to a bottomless nowhere…

This charm works wonderfully in the realms of art and in it’s ability to inspire compassion in humankind. Yet, it stands somewhat alone and lonely within our world. The enchanted forrest can’t always stand the light of day. 

This is at the core of all Pisces Venus  needs – finding a concrete structure to support it. It can be done through embracing a spiritual path or joining in with something larger. For example, with a group of people working towards a common ideal. It will depend on the placement of Venus in the chart to see what path is best. 

The support is crucial as the dualism of Pisces can make it flow somewhere…but get to nowhere every time. 

This Venus is sensitive but can always move on to brighter waters. It is flexible like that…And always hopeful. In this sense, it is a very powerful placement and can survive emotional wounds time and again. 

Mercury in the 8th house: Cutting Edge

If you have Mercury located in your 8th house you know words and ideas hold great power.

You are highly sensitive and aware of the importance of thoughts in shaping our world. Most probably, you are hyper-aware of what other people are thinking around you. Depending on the sign, this awareness can be focused on people close to you (water), society at large (air) or those in close proximity physically (Earth).

The 8th house is an intuitive house (ruled by Scorpio) therefore, although you may become fascinated with theories that explain why and how people think: Psychology, religion, criminology, science, spirituality and even Astrology- this is all a tool for you to try and understand what you simply already know. Your thinking is not rational and almost supernatural. Whatever rational tool you use to explain and create order- don’t forget that. After all, real healing can’t take place when not facing what is really there.

Growing up, you just knew more than was said or explained to you. You knew what members of the family were concerned about, their worries and fears. Being young, you didn’t have the words or full understanding necessary to express what you found out. This may have created patterns of repressing your thoughts as they caused anxiety. You were also exposed to secrets and topics that you couldn’t fully digest and had to repress. It is possible adults could sense your mature grasp of their situation. Some adults use children with this Mercury as their therapists: telling them all their problems. While others, fear and punish these children for knowing their secrets.

Which one was it? For whatever pattern played out, you still learned that your thoughts are…Dangerous. You didn’t know why, but you knew you had to start hiding them from others or someone will get hurt. You may have experienced, that your words can deeply hurt others and have shied away from expressing your ideas.

As you grew older, you started to learn how to put your intuitive knowing into words, images or some other form that others could grasp. That is why fields that study human behavior are very appealing to you personally, they help you make sense and order inside the turmoil and chaos in your mind. Remember, this is an emotional space for Mercury to be, therefore a search for order and healing is such a large part of your journey.

It is important for you to not get too tied to old ways of thinking. Just because in the past, something you said or though created a painful situation doesn’t mean it will always be so. Try new ways of thinking and learn to detach from thoughts that create fear.

On some deep level, you believe there is something flawed or even crazy about your mind. Again, this is simply a misunderstanding from the past.

I believe, the problem is not only those past situations where you hurt others or they hurt you. Rather, the problem is that you know within that you hold great power. This power scares you as they are afraid unleashing it will create destruction.  This is the typical Plutonian problem. In the case of mercury, it can be dealt with through expression. Look at the sign and aspects of your Mercury to find where you can let out steam in a positive way.

Because you repress thoughts that bother you, eventually they must come out. In that, your Mercury is highly creative. It has a lot of energy to unleash into this world. This energy can be used to create something new. Usually, I find Mercury in the 8th house people, do best when they express what they need to in order to feel good and cleanse the toxic waste of years of painful words and ideas. So once you work in a selfish manner, you become a canvas for new creations that others can appreciate.

Your mind tends to work in cycles and patterns. Once you have an idea of experience you never forget it and simply keep adding more to it during life. This goes for both positive happy memories and some difficult ones. You are good at analyzing almost anything and can make a great researcher. The key is…What you research must have “meat” to it. The Virgo can analyze dry number sand figures, but you?

You need to be fascinated and engaged. Naturally, human emotions are attractive. But what you might find it, you can be just as engaged with anything else if you find how. I mention this because it might prove helpful for you to find a positive focus- instead of the unsteady ocean of humanity.

If you find yourself overwhelmed, just engage with something harmless. Your mind is like an engine in need of fuel and you can’t go for long periods of time without intense probing.

The other extreme is also likely; you might find that after periods of “detoxing” your ways of thinking you need something new to be interested in. You might jump into whatever presents itself…You are always on the hunt.

Again, if you forget you are driven by intuition (it is very easy to do so), you might end up drowning in your new subject of obsession.

Many 8th house Mercury people, end up making themselves their prime subject of research…working on healing their mind and transforming their way of expression. In part, because of bad experiences in childhood and in part, because they are motivated to seek the root of everything. Subjects that are endless are the most attractive: the occult, spirituality, god, science and anything that can’t be fully understood.

You enjoy the process of understanding and searching for answers more than the answers. It a real thrill for you! And so careers that allow you to exercise your detective mind are a possibility. You probably dislike small talk and concert answers…You know things are always more complicated then they seem.  That attitude combined with your great listening skills can make you a valued friend and lover. You take your own promises seriously and treat others with a level of non-judgment. Perhaps, because you know where they are coming from and not because you think they are good.

Your way of communicating can be interesting and elusive. You probably heard the phrase: “what do you mean?” many time. You can learn to deliver your voice and create a mysterious atmosphere.

Some current examples of this Mercury are Mark Zuckerberg who influences the world through communication with Facebook and Eddie Murphy: who is unafraid to bring the taboo subject to light using comedy. In general, once the power of communication is unleashed you can become well known for your brand of communicating and have other people really drawn to you.

You can be ruthless with your words when deeply hurt. Although the knowledge of the effect words have, will over time help you avoid this. Still, it is a good idea to have relationships based on real trust, intimacy and shared interests. Relationships based just on social roles and mutual pleasures can’t hold your interest for very long.

Ultimately, your journey is all about learning how to act on the power you have and not fearing it. Balancing the need for dramatic intensity with the need for spiritual clarity and finding meaningful ways of self-expression. You will keep transforming all your life until you reach a point that feels true for you. Meanwhile, you are highly flexible and curious about all the possibilities. You are fearless about getting dirty in the process of your search. That is where the famous connection to the taboo comes from regarding this placement.

You will seek anywhere and find beauty in dark places. One day, shaping the world when you communicate what you find…Something others are too afraid to look into but can be valuable for healing us all.

Keys:

Knowing your own darkness, accepting the darkness of others.

Embracing your power to influence other people.

Looking your own fears in the eye. 

Finding a subject of interest that can have a positive impact.

Letting go of old patterns of thinking.