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Breaking the 7th house pattern and becoming your (whole) Self

Did you know that your 7th house shows events in your life?

You come into this world with certain qualities. You are not born as a blank slate because from the very first day of life you have a particular orientation towards reality. As a result, you encounter certain events and situations which create and confirm your basic personality. That makes sense considering that the 1st house is symbolic of the Self and its 7th house is the world. The 7th house confirms that the world is a certain way and that your role within it is specific to you. This movement between perceiving the world in a certain way and having that perception confirmed in different situations is what gradually makes you…Yourself. For example, if your ascendant is in the sign of Libra, you may see the world as a place ruled by Mars.

The world to you is full of ambitious, often selfish, even aggressive people that get things done. Your perception is always confirmed as correct because you position yourself as someone who cares about keeping social harmony and doing things more diplomatically. However, you keep encountering people who try and step into more direct conflict with you. The world seems to always push you to be more assertive, direct, ambitious and quick to react. Now, there are two ways you can react to this. First, you can decide that you want to step even more into your Libra qualities. You may put more effort into getting along with people and pleasing them. You will keep trying to avoid and run away from confrontation and the “Aries” events the universe throws at you.

Over time you will only attract more and more situations that force you to take a stand or fight for something you care about. The events will become more aggressive and difficult to ignore until finally, you step into accepting that the unattractive Aries qualities are not only within other people but also within you. This realization breaks the illusion of the 7th house because now you perceive the world in a more balanced way (pun intended, Libra). You see it as a place where getting along with others matters but knowing when to fight and take a stand is also good. What happens next? You finally see yourself not as Libra acting in an Aries world but as a person that can pick and choose how to reach and what kind of events to participate in during various times of life. The 7th house spell is broken and you become your full Self. You are now stronger and wiser and the world no longer appears like a threat full of aggression and conflict.

You can be the judge of how in tune you are with your 7th house. Ask yourself what do you think about the world .What is it like? What are most people like?

Try and write down simple words and qualities that spring to mind. Don’t judge your answers but try and see if they fit a particular sign. Now, flip your answers, write the opposite qualities to the sign, and see if you identify with it more. For example:

“I see the world as a place that is unsafe and where things can always go wrong. People in it are very powerful and can become dangerous if I anger them.”
“I see the world as a place full of irresponsible people but also as a place full of magical possibilities and art.”

Guess which sign is which?

Some people identify more with their 7th house and reject their first house qualities. This happens if the Sun is weak or if they have planets in the 7th house. It can be hard for some people to accept the vital part of them that wants to shine and interact with the world. They will often fear appearing or being selfish. In other cases, a person admires the 7th house qualities to the point of idol worship. They find friends or celebrities that they worship and fit the qualities that they secretly have within them. The key to a more balanced life is often about the expression of your energies within the world arena. It is about allowing yourself to express your core personality and not reject it.


No living human being lives in a fully balanced state. No one really can always have a complete balance between themselves and the world. The conflict between staying true to who we are and finding our place among other people and their dreams, needs and personalities make life exciting and full of growth. However, learning to accept and use what we either reject or admire in other people will allow us to be ourselves with more authenticity and less inner criticism.

Aries-Libra: To do my will in the world and not lose my connection to spirituality and others.

Taurus-Scorpio: To belong to myself but also to other people.

Gemini-Sagittarius: To search but also reach understanding.

Cancer-Capricorn: To be safe but also sets out of my comfort zone.

Leo-Aquarius: To leave a mark on the world but also support the creativity of others in my group.