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What you want is what is takes: Natal Mars in Aries

Mars is not given enough credit. It is the fire in our soul that propels us forward towards our goals. If Mars is sleeping our energy is low and our willpower dormant.

Mars is at home in the first sign of Aries, although in my experience, it is not really all that at ease here because the energy is so high and hard to direct towards work. Regardless, Mars in Aries is amazingly powerful not only for itself but for others around the person. Why? In part, because the shadow side of Aries is the sign of Libra, which is all about other people. Therefore, Mars in Aries has an energy that can motivate others and make them follow. If your Mars is in Aries, you are a pioneer at heart and someone with very passionate wants and desires. Your own passion is contagious because it is so pure and earnest that others cannot help but be swept away by your will. You have a way of making other people aware of what they want and were afraid to pursue. This ability makes Mars in Aries an excellent leader who can convince people to get up and move. Mars in Aries is all about “think first act later,” and because the action comes first, there is very little place for fear. In many ways you have the courage that comes with not taking the time to think of the dangers of your actions. This is not a criticism but something to consider if you feel that your actions go against your long-term plans. Aries is all about starting projects and pioneering ideas and not so much about the details of the result. Your Mars will thrive at starting things and leading others to take care of the long hours or details of the project. One reason for this is that your physical energy comes out in bursts of tremendous power that burns out really fast. You can exert a lot of energy but only for short periods. The tenacity of an earthy Mars is not here. This is important to keep in mind when choosing a profession so that you are allowed to work hard but with many breaks in between. In addition, your physical reserves are directly tied to your libido drive. This means that a lot of your motivation comes from what you want. You see something you desire and you act. You cannot act unless there is something you desire. Freudian psychology is not accepted any longer but the idea that human beings are propelled by desire rings true for this Mars. 

This can be a strength because you can learn how to motivate yourself from within. You must always have something that you really want but feel like you can’t have. You must feel like a hunter for a treasure to get yourself off the couch. This is fire energy and it needs to air. Air might not be what one thinks of when thinking desire but you can imagine it as the wind that stirs the ship that is the heavy and child-like Aries Mars. Because here is the thing with desires: there must be selfishness for it to even exist. Selfish is not a bad word because our selfish needs can be used for good. Mars in Aries must be selfish or it becomes truly difficult. An Aries Mars that is trying to hide away rom what it wants starts to get into all sorts of trouble in the from of anger and conflicts with people. He will start to find others very annoying because he will project his own selfish needs onto others. He will attract all sorts of very irresponsible and impulsive people to remind him that he needs to finally take action. Because in addition to desire, you are motivated by the need to fight against something. This is true even if you re the most gentle and unaggressive person. The need to have an enemy to battle is there for you and can be expressed as fighting for a cause or debating people. It depends on the chart and the house Mars is playing in. 

Aries is the baby of the zodiac and it is like a young James Dean on a motorcycle. It needs to be on the move and likes speed. Your Mars can propel you forwards if you want something or if you have to fight someone. Otherwise, this Mars, like the child he is, is pretty tame and easy to get along with. You have sparks of energy and moments of excitement that are unbelievably powerful but the rest of the time you keep this energy to yourself. This also applies to your anger which can be almost playful, like a puppy learning to bite. I am not saying you are not secretly a wolf…But you fight for something before you learn you even have teeth that can hurt others. You have no awareness of your own strength until you use it. That is why sometimes this Mars has fears around its own strength and around taking action.

There can be situations when you are younger when you underestimated your powers and someone got hurt. This can happen during a game, a competition or just a moment of anger. It will take maturity and time before you can know how you impact other people. Aries is the child and like any child, he is not always aware that his actions can be separate from others and really make a mess. That is why this Mars can really use some form of sports or games that allow him to learn how to use it’s strength with an awareness of the results so they can learn how to calculate their aim before they act. The stereotype that Mars in Aries is always into sports is not always true. Still, they can always use some form of playful competition or group activity to exercise their passion without any real-life consequences. However, this Mars will still have bursts of physical energy that need an outlet in some form, even if it hates sports. 

Mars in Aries makes a wonderful friend in times of depression because he can cheerlead even during an apocalypse. Mars is related to vitality and it can breath life even into a dead idea or project. As a friend this Mars will always be quick to forget any grievances and there to encourage you to take risks. He will breath life into your sleeping dreams and remind you to be fearless. Sometimes if there is nothing to do or if all it’s efforts are in vain this Mars can become a waling bomb of irritation. Luckily, it is easy enough to resolve once he has leeway to play or express enthusiasm. It is really important to never tell Mars in Aries what to do. Although it does not react well to orders it does react well to challenges. Want Mars in Aires to do something? Tell them they can’t do it or it is too risky. Most of the times they will try and prove you wrong. Strangely enough positive encouragement can be very toxic for Mars in Aries. They may feel it is pointless to put in effort if already everyone is happy with the result. They don’t; see the point of extorting energy towards something unless there is some element of pioneering or excitement involved. Ideally, there is a responsible boss that challenges them to get a team of people to put in effort toward something creative and fun. Mars in Aries is very independent but it also needs some level of behind-the scenes guidance. It needs either an enemy or a prize at the end of the journey to strive for.

In romantic relationships, Mars in Aries is very earnest and straightforward. It likes to feel like the other person is willing to “play” and even compete with them, just as long it is still a respectful and fair competition. This is true of both genders, who like to feel like they can experience their strength through interaction with the other person. They need to respect you and know you can stand up to them and not let them walk all over you. They want an equal partner in crime to join them in a team effort towards their dreams. In fact, they would really enjoy it if you both feel like criminals on the run against the world. It is the kind of scenario they find attractive. They can also challenge you or start debates to feel the passion coming to life. You need to feel at ease and know they don’t mean you any harm. They just want to play. You can constantly challenge them to stop starting things if you want them to stop. Just tell them they can’t do it and watch Mars in Aries become a peaceful dragon.

Appearance wise Mars in fire tends to give a glowing skin that seems to stretch over the muscles and strong eyebrows or jaw-line. Mars in Aries can be into sports and have an impressive physique but they can also lose motivation and have periods of being in-active.

Needs: To act fast while the passion is there, independence, small daily challenges and movement.

Hates: Slow and leading to nowhere plans and dishonest interactions where anger is under the surface.

Loves: Excitement, speed, chasing and hunting for something. Open war fare that ends up in friendship and love.

Famous Mars in Aries:

Prince famous for his raw sexuality and music. Mars rules his creativity and romantic relationships.

A Gemini Sun in the 8th house with Mars in Aries and Pluto on the MC. Pluto and Mars rule creative career and show crisis around that area.

Angelina Julie famous fro her action roles

Mars rules her 10th house and public image, Mars is conjunct Moon and Jupiter so indicates fighting against injustice and being a fierce mother.

Mars square Pluto in the natal chart

If you have this aspect in your natal chart you are a naturally incredibly tenacious. This aspect like many Pluto aspects is not something other people notice at first glance about you. It is a force that you keep close to your heart and like a magical ace you present it when something triggers you to take action.

Your energy comes from the depths of your physical core and seems to rely on an infinite potential for survival. It can often seem even to you that you do not know where this energy comes from.

Growing up taking any form of assertive action could feel frightening because it awoke some basic animalistic instinct in your heart which you felt was not appropriate or even embarrassing. You have found you are best able to assert yourself with vigor and passion when times are hard. Pushing yourself to the limit is often the only way to access this volcano of passion that is beyond your control.

 It is very likely you direct this energy into some form of sport or into your work. If you aren’t directing it to achieve something in the world you would often find yourself in conflict with other people who want to dominate and cage you in a spiritual prison so that you can’t escape and create chaos. You would resist with all your’ might when anyone tries and take away your right to exercise your full strength and ambition.

Ambition is something you are naturally very prone too. You are motivated by the potential to better yourself and gain some form of control over your life. You are not soft hearted and often would step on your own vulnerable parts just to get to the top. The tricky thing with this aspect is that once it ignites in a fire like a huge metal machine it is very hard to calm it down. The reason this is tricky is that other parts of your personality might not be ready to go to war just yet.

You may find yourself often in a state of inner conflict that prevents you from moving forward and achieving anything at all. This comes down to a pretty simple state of fear of what you might create if you go forward. You are not afraid of other people but sometimes you are afraid of yourself and what you are capable of. You might find passion, ambition and drive something you dislike in other people because you reject that part of yourself. It is very important for you to learn what your limits are so that you don’t burn out and end up hurting yourself or someone else.

Children with this aspect do best when they are kept active and allowed to make mistakes. They are the type of child to break a watch to see its machinations and get angry when they find it broken. Pluto likes to destroy in order to understand how something works and Mars like to create new life. If you think about this combination you can realize this aspect suggests these people have an inner drive for life in all forms. They enjoy blood pumping through their veins, sun on their burned skin in summer, the pain of the freezing cold on top of a mountain and the afterglow of endorphins born from pain and strain. They are incredibly good at self-control and have a high tolerance for stress that seems to be based on some inner conviction that they can do anything.

The paradox is that if no situations in their life allow them to exercise their will-power or spiritual muscles they will create the situations in an artificial manner. If life becomes too easy and there is nothing to fight for they would become their own worst enemies. They would try and punish themselves and would feel as if they are controlled by some impulse that is almost evil in its deliciousness. I want to point out this is what happens when you reject Pluto and become the slave of your Mars.

There is nothing wrong or evil about your instincts and impulses but have enough responsibility to take time and learn where and how to express them. You want to create but sometimes you destroy. The opposite is also very true! You often create something powerfully evocative in the psyche of other people. You can inspire others to lean on their instincts and strength and survive anything. It is when you are using your instincts to save life that you become free from the slavery of your own fire.

Saving life doesn’t always mean being a firefighter or surgeon although in many cases that is a popular field for you to end up in. Saving life can mean saving the fire in other people’s hearts. You can’t stand seeing other people become so weak as to stop fighting for their power. You can become an example and activist of living life without apologizes. You can lift the spirit of those who think they have been defeated and that is a wonderful gift.

My advice to you would be to try and write down situations where you felt out of control or that your actions were destructive. Take time to really find a pattern of what is a trigger for you. These situations actually hold the key to your hidden energy. After you figure out what these situations are you would be better prepared for battle. If you feel like you are being eaten alive by an invisible fire it is a good idea to find balance through physical activity. I always suggest to keep your ambitiousness to yourself and just work behind the scenes. This aspect works best when kept safely out of the judgment of others. Unlike the opposition what you have is a battery with infinite potential that is volatile if not directed into something constructively destructive.

Destruction is part of nature and the cycle of life. Life is often born out of the ashes of what came before it. You can reinvent that angry, sullen and chaotic individual that once was yourself and become a creator with a shield of diamond strong will-power. You can also fall from grace when you fall into the trap of thinking humans are just animals. The spiritual side of Pluto wants to elevate the flesh into spirit. The instinctive and raw appetite you have for life, movement, sex, love, work and power can be crystalized into something more nuanced and gentle. The inner protector within you is just waiting to be reborn. It is waiting to wear its past mistakes as dirty metal armor while inside its chest would burn a gentle pure fire of intense protectiveness for all that has a beating heart.

Moon in Sagittarius: Clown of Wisdom

Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.- Oprah Winfrey (Sagg Moon)

In the beginning there was nothing. God said, ‘Let there be light!’ And there was light. There was still nothing, but you could see it a whole lot better.- Ellen Degeneres

If you have the Moon in the sign of Sagittarius, what does it mean? How can one be both a clown and a philosopher?

This is a strange placement for a natal Moon. After all: Moon is about our emotions and inner self and this sign is more concerned with humanity at large- the bigger picture. Ruled by Jupiter emotions take a funny turn for the person. Imagine taking the heart and translating it into a language of logic- it doesn’t always work so well and this is the case when the Moon is in Air or Fire signs. What happens then is that emotions get expressed on a very high level but not in a way that other people would associate traditionally with feelings. It stops being about love, hate, passion, jealousy and become a matter of ideas. The ideas for Saggiterius are very much related to intellectual preoccupations and to the higher mind. Saggiterius is able to reason and find patterns in the world; it finds its opinions to be the truth.  Sagittarius is always searching for truth! That is their mission and it takes them on crazy trips and relationships.  The Moon here is very positive is some ways. First of all, you are probably more concerned with the future or the present and unlike some Moons you are not as prone to get stuck in the past. Therefore, healing and moving forward is your strength. Or you emotions should be cheerful, easy, fun and exciting. You don’t like heavy and intense emotional displays unless it is a game- like in theater, or between good friends. Jupiter expands and gives luck to all it touches- here the inner self is able to see the bigger picture, to stay a free spirit no matter the hardship. You probably enjoy travel or taking small risks and gambles in your private life.

You might enjoy doing strange or funny things for the sake of adventure.  People probably enjoy your company a lot as you bring humor and energy of optimism wherever you go. That is not to say you don’t get depressed or angry- you very much do if something you care about is being challenged. The point is you don’t take it personally and after letting out steam you forget what bothered you and go back to you witty self. On the other hand, people can really get you down! If they display constant heavy and difficult emotions you become a shadow of yourself. Probably you would leave such a situation if you can before it gets this bad.

Saggiterius Moons need to move forward and have freedom to express emotions and ideas. They live by rules they strongly believe in and some are even very traditional in their views- what matters is that they had the freedom to seek out the truth they believe in. They don’t take well to imposed rules and they don’t tolerate opinions they don’t agree with very well. If this is your Moon placement you probably know people sometimes feel like fighting you and what you believe in. Because your philosophy is an emotional matter for you- you will really fight back.  When you were younger you probably did you best to fit in by being the “clown” or the life of the party, even if you were shy you still could pull that off. The older you get the more you allow what matters to you to take hold and feel comfortable and safe in your ideals – the less of a clown you become. A mature Saggiterius Moon is full of wisdom and experience they enjoy sharing with the world.  They are able to use all they learned in their travels of spirit and mind to uplift other people (Oprah Winfrey is a good example).  Your happiness is contagious and your ability to not get too attached to emotions is a gift.

At heart you are an optimist who knows that life is just a game.  In love you need a partner that doesn’t retrain your inner free spirit and allows you to go where you need to go. Someone who enjoys the humor and wit you possess and gives you space to grow would be ideal. For you relationships are about growth and you don’t understand why people stay together if they are miserable. Commitment for you is committing to always change and move forward. Although this is who you are- you might need a more grounded partner to take care of all the little details you are bored with and who brings stability to your racing heart.

You might like a partner who is adventurous but also practical and who shares the same views about the world and humanity. Together you can grow and change for the better.Some people may perceive you as shallow in your emotions and although they may not appreciate what you have to offer perhaps it is a lesson for you to learn to face dangerous and deeper emotional currents in life. Luckily you embrace  a challenge with a smile and it will not nock you down for long.

How the Scorpio Moon goes Mad

The Scorpio wants to feel for the sake of feeling. The feeling is mistaken for truth when in fact, truth is to be found when the waves of emotions die down.

Truth is within you if you could only see the magnificent beauty of your own soul, instead of the endless current of moods you live in, If only…But you crave emotion and it is the only way you know to be alive. Is being alive the same as living?  the answer is no. If this resonated with you at all then continue reading and If not please excuse this moody post.

“Sensitive people usually love deeply and hate deeply. They don’t know any other way to live than by extremes because their emotional thermostat is broken.”
― Shannon L. Adler

Today I want to talk about the complicated emotional makeup of the Moon in Scorpio. This is especially relevant as this placement is all about the experience of emotions in life. I want to write to you- my Moon in Scorpio dear person, as perhaps this might be helpful for you. I know you don’t shy away from gruesome images, hard truths and painful memories. So I trust you will forgive my harshness. Let’s face it, you are a little mad by nature or at least by nurture. Whatever the case, you are prone to at least a few problems which cause you to experience inner turmoil. The minor version of your crazy is that of the obsessive thinker- you never let a thought or idea go once in enters your head, do you? You are prone to attach your thoughts to events in your life and reimagine them over and over. Naturally you are prone various nervous break downs and insomnia. The less minor version of your crazy is all about waves, waves of ups and downs that can make the latest thriller seem tame as a puppy. Something along the lines of a bipolar disorder. You feel deeply they tell you- sure, but it just happens you feel deeply in cycles of joy and desperation. It is not a flat line of depth you experience but a storm that is within you- always.

There is nothing very wrong with you, in fact you are the most gifted individual in terms of how experienced you are in all range of feeling and knowing. But…lets ask a simple question? why are you feeling at all? What is it that you really feel?

Imagine you are sitting in your living room in a comfy chair and a commercial comes up on TV. Something about it makes you feel things. Is that emotion real? Probably not you will say, it was manipulated to make you buy stuff. You are right about that one. The question is what are you buying into every day? The secret truth is you are buying into you Scorpio Moon, the master of emotional manipulation. Thats why you feel bad and thats why things are so wrong. all the F***** time. You were born with the Moon in Scorpio, you are unique! You were born to feel and that is what you truly desire. To reach the depth of human experience and find out the truth. Yes you see- you want to feel because you want to find out truth. But we all know emotions can lie, don’t we? Are feelings really the way to the light? Perhaps for you they are. But not so fast dear…You are going mad. You are obsessed, depressed, sad, lonely, alone, angry. Why does that happen when all you wanted was to feel?

The answer is boring but true. You have a built-in mechanism (Moon) that is able to create emotion out of thin air. You have this need for feeling that isn’t satisfied with daily existence. Anyone else feels things because of events in their life.

They see a tiger? They feel fear. You don’t see a tiger and so you imagine a big scary tiger until you feel scared for you life. Thats is because your true secret fear is that of not feeling- of being empty. That would mean you are dead. Being alive for you is feeling and any moment without it must be the end. So you have this gift, this secret ability to fuel and create feelings for the sake of every breath you take. This is a gift- when it isn’t torturing you to bits. Sadly, for most of you Scorpio Moon’s this ability isn’t used for the creation of amazing art or for saving the world with you convictions. I can think of famous ones who did just that. Instead, you keep needing stimuli within you (it is not something you show) and you self-destruct. It is human nature to find negative emotions and thoughts easy to conjure and maintain. So…that is what happens when you are young. You seek emotions and when it isn’t there you create it while convincing yourself it is real and caused by X or Y.

You are not crazy, you are just walking around with this lava that is about to burn you. I beg you to either admit that you have needs to truth and love and to seek them outside of your own twisted mind, or to at least find release and expression. 

Is what you feel caused by an outward event? Is it caused by the memories of the past? 

What matters for you is to learn a few things before you can shine like the diamond you are. 

First, learn to live in the present and to ride its current that will take you into a health future. Second, learn the usefulness of boundaries so as to differentiate your feelings from the world- you are an empath after all. Third, face your biggest fear- which is fear itself. Last, most important is learn you mission to uncover truth which you can through honest emotions not conjured by artificial means. Be it addictions, relationships or your own glorious mind. You devil. 

Venus in the 8th house/Venus in Scorpio

“That amazing moment when you find out the truth”

Note: though this post describes the development of a Venus in the 8th house it greatly applies to people with charts that involve many/planets in the 8th and aspects to Pluto between the Sun and Venus

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How does Venus  translate in its opposite house of Scorpio?  Venus as you know, is ruled by Taurus- a strong sensual sign in some ways reminiscent of its opposite Scorpio. After all, both signs know what they want and value and they will do a lot to make sure they have it.  Venus is usually described as the planet of love and beauty, but in truth it is more the planet of values. It so happens that we value is: beauty, luxury and love. But where Venus is placed and how it is aspected will greatly differ in terms of what it is really about.  I would suggest that Venus is more about the sensual material things in life: from trips abroad to fashion, it is very much involved. In the 8th, these material things need to transform into the  spiritual.

The 8th house is a complicated house. I once described it as a dark cave or hole- and I stand by that. And as you know a dark cave or hole is dark only in contrast to all the light outside. If so, any planet in some hidden manner shines through in this house! It’s a complicated ordeal don’t get me wrong- but it’s not a negative one.  Then again it sure can be- as Venus is so sensual that it can be put to the test in a house that deals with other people’s money and sex. That said, let me describe this placement to the best of my ability.

Venus in the 8th development: 

Venus in the 8th house has a love problem- their lesson in life is to learn a full all-consuming spiritual love that lets go of power. These are people with a very rich emotional life- no matter if its good or bad they tend to value this intensity that makes them feel alive. This life is usually well hidden or obscured by all sorts of things so other people rarely know the extent of feeling that is there. A Venus in the 8th house was born with love emanating from them in waves- somewhat erotic or misunderstood most likely by them and their families. The type of reactions this Scorpio/8th house Venus arouses from people as children even is a bit freighting. People around them feel confronted with their own hidden needs and so they try to control or become controlled by the young 8th house Venus. The result is that extreme boundaries and issues of power and control are a major theme in any 8th house love life- on that a little  later.

How that plays out differs- a Leo 8th house Venus may be that kid that plays in theater or even dances while the Virgo Venus may become so strict with controlling themselves and their “wrong” emotions and urges  to the point of repression.  The key here is, that almost always their loving nature is not understood by others so much. Like Plutonian people they too can be labeled as dangerous, strange and wrong by parents and teachers or society. Why? They don’t know their own love nature and so they accept what other people tell them- that they are a little too intense and a little wild or maybe even crazy.

As teenagers, they naturally become most aware and awakened to their potential for emotional understanding- as they usually have a high intelligence in this regard, they know that things are complicated early on, and during this stage of life they become somewhat preoccupied with this range of emotions that can be labeled as “dark”.  It is common for them to be interested in anything the subculture had to offer as long as it is also somewhat beautiful in a broken or poetic kind of way. They want to learn and feel everything and therefore, keep finding themselves in situations that are a little extreme or overwhelming. They form relationships that offer them the experience of deep emotional intimacy.  The thing is that teenagers though prone to dramatic behaviors and mood swings, don’t always have the capacity for a relationship not based on superficial things that is so fully needed by the Venus in the 8th house. At first, they may try very hard to fit into those superficial roles- they do know how to style themselves in that way that makes them popular. After all they are so into the rebel counter culture. If they manage to find their place in that way that is great but chances are they will find most relationships lack the meaning and loyalty they so value.  It is during their teenage years they begin to reconsider all they learned as children about their ability to give and receive love.  By their love of rebel culture, they allow themselves not to control the intense urges for intimacy. You see- it is all just a tool for that end and most likely they don’t agree with the values of the counter- culture.  They simply use the fashion, music and rhetoric of a darker nature to allow some healthy self-expression.

The way this plays out greatly differs- some 8th house Venus teens allow the feelings to rise through art, books or even sports. They may hide in their room for hours writing suicidal poetry and listening to Gothic music. Others take a more risky road that involves going out into the world without protection- as protecting their heart is not going to allow them to delve deep into the human love they yearn to experience. Whether in fantasy or reality, most 8th house Venus has stormy teenage years that involved some major transformation as a result of a relationship or even a tragedy.

The mature 8th house Venus is a person that finally cultivated their attraction to the fatal with a high level of ability to give and receive erotic energy. The best way to illustrate this is by the stages described above. The first stage involved a denial of one’s ability to love and be loved in the way that as needed. Even if they were very loved by people- just not in  a way that felt good.  They may have learned that when they love another- be it a parent, brother or friends- it is wrong. They learned that they take too much- ask for too much and give something that others understand as erotic instead of pure. By erotic I mean it aroused some dark emotional currents in their loved ones and as a result they were deeply rejected or used- all this happens on some very invisible level and chances are it happens in the Venus 8th house person’s soul- which makes it a very real experience for them. This description is also true in some way about other planets in the 8th house and major aspects to Pluto (I wish to write a post just about that one day).

In addition to having some complicated emotional needs and a lot of lessons about being loved and loving others. Venus in the 8th house is greatly related with dealing with other people’s money and possessions. These people may not arouse other people to be nice to them but it arouses them to trust them with what they own. Interesting right? In part I believe that the great emotional needs they had translated into material and sensual needs- more easily answered!  Even if they grew up very poor they still knew how to find something or receive what they wanted from others- as long as it was material. The same intense and (sorry but it’s the best word) erotic energy they had allowed them to attract luxury into their lives. Luxury could mean just having a little more than those around them – so it always depends on that. I think that learning to use the same charm for unselfish means is the real lesson here.

They are very good with making something out of nothing and can really make money grow.  They are generally very good at attracting the luxury of this world as long as they don’t own it. For example, it’s not uncommon for them to work in charity organizations where they end up collecting the highest donations. Anything they touch with their senses becomes suddenly more valuable. This at times can be true of people – they can elevate someone’s status by being with them! In all cases they are a little behind the scenes and the success largely depends on how much of their emotions they invest.

This brings us to the topic of relationships and marriage. Here the genders should be separated. The women with the 8th house Venus need and want someone who can offer them a cocktail of intoxicating romance which at times is toxic.  What this drug looks like depends on the sign but in all cases a need for a special kind of intimacy is present.  They want someone who is strong enough to accept their love without fear- and be consumed by it. Someone they can trust not to use that against them in anyway. They learned that love is all or nothing- because when younger their love was either rejected and feared or accepted and abused. The best partner for them is someone who can appreciate what they offer while still being strong enough to not let all the passion and desire become too much- In other words someone who is capable of a soul bond but also of setting boundaries. Can you imagine someone like that? Strong enough to let go and keep it together at the same time, now that is magic.

Women here need to be very careful that they marry for the right reasons- as they may give up on the above ideal and settle for someone who is only socially powerful. They may confuse money and power with spiritual strength. As they naturally have that something about them that attracts powerful (controlling) people who just happen to be rich. I’m sorry to say but the low current of such placement tends to marry for money. Unlike the 10th house Venus it is not a real need- they don’t need the luxury they just need to feel protected enough to bond with another person.

Man with this Venus need a partner that is a little complex- someone who is mysterious. They too should be careful they marry or commit for the right reasons- they need to learn to be connected to their hearts desire even if it is hard to understand.

In conclusion, the Venus in the 8th house is that person who will transform themselves many times. They go through stages when all they can do is take from others- and moments of pure despair when one they give isn’t appreciated. They love with passion that is powerful, soulful, poetic and sensitive to the hidden aspects of life.

They can teach others to really enjoy being in love even if it doesn’t feel good. Their love is going to have an element of pain in it- always, but also healing for all the people who were not loved and accepted- and most of all they learn to love themselves with all their faults. As they are truly beautiful in their way of loving even the broken things that can e made whole again. They see the broken parts in other people but they paint them with a fire os passion and rebirth…So they transform the person they love and themselves forever.

Venus in Gemini- Friendship never ends

And I’m only here
To bring you free love
Let’s make it clear
That this is free love
No hidden catch
No strings attached
Written by Venus in n Gemini Dave Gahan (Depeche Mode)

Venus in Gemini is one of the most romantic and exciting placements for the planet of love and beauty.  I would like to dispute many of the common views of this placement.

For example, you may have heard that Venus in Gemini people get bored easily and  don’t like emotionally heavy relationships- which for some reason leads to the paranoid conclusion that they are likely to cheat.  I don’t agree with any of this nonsense, in fact Gemini is one truly romantic sign for Venus to be.  Venus at the end of the day rules not only love but also our values- what we hold dear in our hearts.

A Gemini Venus is looking for a very specific kind of relationship and won’t settle for anything less than a true soulmate match.  Yes, they will not stay in a relationship that doesn’t hold on to this ideal- and they may even exit without a second glance at their broken hearted partner. But it isn’t out of some malice- they just believe in that one true partnership and they have no doubt you should do so too!

The kind of love they look for is a partnership of two equals that can keep each other interested- leading to growth, a partnership of two that are made stronger and better by being together.

They have a deeply hidden fantasy of this person and relationship. It usually evolves a lot of play, adventure, excitement and sweet moments where they get to exchange kind words with their loved one.  There is something almost childlike about how they view romantic love- they want to it to be cute and fun and full of “togetherness”. As long as their lover is by their side they are happy- no need for money or crazy nights of passion. They just want someone who is sweet, kind and fits their secret ideal of a perfect friend.

Many of them had a friend like that when they were little- and they tend to look for a similar person when they grow up. They tend to express love and care in an inconsistent manner – some day they are all sunny and bring you flowers for breakfast and the next they might disappear on you completely to become engaged in some strange activity. In that sense they are indeed slightly hard to rely on- but once you get used to their comings and goings you will notice a repeating pattern.  They usually engage with you for a while and then become entranced by something else- but if they love you they always come back.

If you try and scold them for their behavior you will only get sad puppy eyes or some long funny story. It’s best to accept them as they are and enjoy your moments of freedom.

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A jealous partner would make Gemini Venus people sad and lost. They become confused when their “best friend” doesn’t allow them the same thing which the give with ease:  freedom to discover and change. If you want to keep them happy it is best to use sweet talk or simply hold their hand.  In some ways this Venus is truly poetic and appreciates the world of theater, poetry, literature or even cheap romance novels. They like to be swift in their actions and don’t like to linger too long on one thing. They probably would solve most arguments with ease with the use of a sharp tongue and a touch of humor. They are very charming in their ability to shift and change and they are never at a loss for words of love.

The Venus in Gemini is the kind of prince   who would exaggerate his heroism for the sake of the story, he the kind of guy who will kiss your eyelids every morning but forget your birthday. She is  the princess who asks you to slay the dragon for some action – but as long as you’re cute she doesn’t care if you actually do. This is the girl who looks innocent but is a dare devil at heart- and she wants you to respect that. They both may sound untruthful at times- but this is because they are inventing the truth as they go along- it is true for them! They can create the perfect love story and tell all their friends about how you met. In fact they love to create a fantasy around your relationship: how you met and how it was love at first sight.  They need you to like and enjoy them more then they need you to love them. Love is friendship that never ends.  

In some ways they cannot accept the truly painful emotions that a lover may hold within them. To them if a relationship is good- their partner should feel good and that’s the end of it. It a lover feels pain, hurt, confusion- they feel something must be wrong with the relationship.  To make them understand it is best to try and be rational about your emotions and talk and talk some more.

They are deeply caring and loyal to you (once they are) and would probably figure an unorthodox way to make you happy. Women with Venus in Gemini are very easygoing in love. They will charm you with their ability to just be with you in the moment- having fun. They would also be amazing in communicating their appreciation of you.  If you are a good listener, have a sense of humor and don’t accept any promises from them- it should go wonderfully. It is important for them that you don’t fill their lives with negative energy and situations.

They might stay at first out of curiosity (curiosity killed the cat was about them) but soon enough they will see you are no friend to them.  Men with Venus in Gemini tend to be able to charm the opposite sex with ease, as they are very good with words and presenting an image of playfulness.  At heart they are yearning for that soulmate- they know who the perfect girl is. She will be that person who would always be by their side- there to see them make amazing discoveries but also stupid jokes. They want a girl who embodies a spirit of cleverness but who is also “the girl next door” in many ways.  They like girls who are both ordinary but at the same time slightly quirky and strange.

Both want a friendship that will last a lifetime- they may believe in that. Until they find it- they would be big flirts that are still searching for the one. If you have a crush on either all you have to do is be sweet and unthreatening in your approach- let them chase you not the other way round.

Some good matches for this Venus (of course the whole chart should be looked at) are for man: women with Venus in Aries, Libra and Taurus and for women man with Venus in Aquarius, Sagittarius and Scorpio.

Tips for lovers : speak up, be your crazy self, be your own person.

They can benifit from a more sobre and stable partner as long as they ahve somthing starnge or intresting to offer.

 

 

 

 

 

Sun in the 9th house :The Spiritual Tourist

Key words- self-growth  (Jupiter)

Tip: break free from your ideas- develop new ones

It is my opinion that planets in the 9th house are special planets, as the 9th house signifies a whole new level of mental and spiritual development. The 8th house if you remember is a very dark house- symbolized by a dark hole, cave or the unconscious mind. The 9

The 9th in contrast, is a very bright house- like an open plain where ideas can grow and develop without being hindered by Scorpio issues such as sexual desire or fear. The Sun is our ego and sense of self- therefore its placement is very important if we want to know who we are in this life.  If you have your Sun in the 9

If you have your Sun in the 9th house you are a tourist at heart. Your mission in life is to develop your identity through Philosophical means- seems a bit vague? Maybe because it is.  You probably started this life with very strong opinions about the world. Many 9th house sun people grow in religious families or to parents that had ideals and opinions which they made sure to pass on to their children. Maybe you grew up in an institution with a strong ideology or were strongly influenced by people with ideals and vision. Either way- you thought that good and evil are a well-defined concept. As you grew older you naturally very curious mind required you to learn more. The way you learn depends on many factors but generally, you do this with the sheer power of reason. You’re the type of person who may read study and travel as much as they can.  You have a strong inner need to develop a whole puzzle of ideas and opinions which you can call your own and which define who you are. In many ways – you don’t know who you are until you are older. As I said, your ideas are first influenced by grown-ups and most likely your father (Sun- ego) has made you. Therefore you must embark on a journey of learning that is very personal but also very fun- It is not a painful process.

The way you learn depends on many factors but generally you do this with the sheer power of reason. You’re the type of person who may read study and travel as much as they can.  You have a strong inner need to develop a whole puzzle of ideas and opinions which you can call your own and which define who you are. In many ways – you don’t know who you are until you are older. As I said, your ideas are first influenced by grown-ups and most likely your father (Sun- ego) has made you. Therefore you must embark on a journey of learning that is very personal but also very fun- It is not a painful process.

Sun in the 9th house people have a thing for cultures that is exciting to note. They adore traveling and talking to people from all over the world. Some even marry foreigners and speak a dozen languages. Anthropology, philosophy, law and religious studies are all fields of interests to them. Though some may choose a less conventional path of thinking and invent their own new ideas, but this is rare because Sagittarius rules the 9th house- and he at heart is more traditional.Anyway, the highest self of this people needs to be in touch with the world at large or it will sink into self-loathing. Getting out into the world to study and meet the full force of history is necessary.

You are probably a very open minded person and are not afraid of anything different. In fact- you love anything different! You love people, the world and have a whole pool f optimism to share. But its not the foolish kind of joy, Rather you know so much of everything that you can see the joke.

Isn’t life funny and strange?  

You know the past and you look into the future into a better world- but never throwing away tradition and the mistakes of history. Your true self is connected to the ones of all of humanity and is able to share your knowledge with the world. As long as you develop you individual self and don’t become too rigid in traditional ways of thinking.

 

Pluto in the First House: Dangerous Beauty

Best quality: The ability to transform

Worst: The ability to destroy

Appearance: Ever changing but the eyes.

Astro-Tip: Stop fearing yourself. Let your feral animal out of the cage and you will find out they are not so dangerous.

What happens when a planet is on your ascendant? It dramatically affects how people perceive you. In the case of Pluto the results are fascinating and sometimes surprising.

Pluto in the first house people are the kind of people who walk into a room- and the air changes. They have a strong presence- both for positive and negative.  It is not about how they look but more to do with the way they hold themselves.  Pluto is seductive- but also dominating. Pluto holds all the secrets of life and death- it is the key. So imagine a person that represents all these dark secrets in their very being. Pluto rising people are usually not aware they have this type of presence or strong effect on people. They may feel hurt and surprised by the way people sometimes fear them- or worse try and dominate and control them!

Why? It is as if other people feel the power and try to protect against it by being controlling or aggressive towards the Pluto rising person.

When they grow up they learn to either repress or mask their presence or they use it to reach their goals. In my experience, the second option is much healthier. Many amazing artists and performers have this placement- they radiate it and use is as a creative vehicle.

How? Pluto is about transformation, the deep and hidden kind, like  that of Scorpio and the 8th house. So they change their look and style every few years- they literally become someone else.  If they are more spiritually evolved they would change and shed their personality and not only their look and style. Some Pluto rising people fall into the trap of plastic surgery and obsession with how they look. A happy Pluto rising person is capable of transforming themselves for the better instead- they work on their character and spiritual growth. They can then influence in their environment- changing it for the better.

My tip for them is to stop trying to control and hide who they are- instead use it for the better. Be creative, live dangerously and change society. For example they can live dangerously only to help others- many medical professionals have this placement. They can use their ability to change to be great actors- turning into their very character with ease. A great example is  Meryl Streep who is known for transforming herself deeply before each role. Or Charlize Theron who changed her appearance  dramatically for “Monster” (2003). The roles both actresses choose reflect Pluto perfectly- dealing with death, sexual trauma, pain and the past.

Some male examples  known to do the same that have Pluto rising are Joaquin  Phoenix who plays characters in conflict or dealing with mental and emotional issues.  In the movie “The master” (2012) he plays a troubled boozy drifter who joins a cult. And who can forget Stephen King? the author known for his horror and supernatural stories who is also mysterious in real life. He also transformed himself greatly from a heavy drug use to a completely sober and successful author.

To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.- Winston Churchill
 

Moon in Virgo – the Beautiful Mind

I was debating writing about this Moon- it is one of the more demanding but then I thought how demanding it must be for those born with it- and decided to stop complaining.

So what is the Moon like in Virgo? Well the Moon is our mental and emotional inner image, it is how we react to things we care about. And what do we care about? When we are little we care about being loved, home, family and when we grow up this translates into our adult relationships.

Traditionally Virgo is very rational, analytical, detail oriented, but don’t forget it is also an Earth sign and one of the more sensual ones at that. Virgo thinks but it also feels through its practical endeavors. What makes the Virgo feel good is being able to get to the bottom of things, to know how they work, it digs in and then breaks the picture into little puzzle pieces- the emotional world of the Virgo, like the Taurus Moon needs stability, but of a different kind. The Virgo Moon needs to know everything is in place, all its thoughts and emotions neatly ordered within. This is all good, but emotions are not very neat and orderly things and so the Virgo Moon is in a flux about itself. As a result Virgo Moon people are very self-critical, they are never perfect enough, good enough. They ask the impossible from their own hearts- to stay in place and play by the rules. But hearts don’t do that do they? Behind the deep thoughts and knowledge of every Virgo Moon is a truly vulnerable person. We all are vulnerable but the Virgo moon is so because in childhood dealing with their inner world became a difficult task. Instead many Virgo Moon kids found themselves doing things: competing and winning medals, dancing, cooking and even working. The Virgo Moon is always busy- and it likes to be. Most Virgo Moon’s you will meet have a mountain of knowledge inside their heads which they take for granted.  They are the learners, the smart ones. The Moon does symbolize the mother and so the mother figure or any important feminine figure in their lives was probably very pushy- pushing them to do more, be more instead of just being. Maybe the mother was a teacher or even worse a mother who never got a professional outlet and bestowed that on their kid.

Every Moon has a task to deal with- the Virgo Moon needs to let go of that teacher in their heads and of all that noise. That is the issue, the constant noise of the mind. As they grow up, the Virgo Moon’s learn to find a healthy outlet for that cluttered mind- usually in a professional frame. They make great researchers, writers and therapists. Some just sit and meditate all day or in bad cases escape into drugs- self-criticism is a problem. Virgo is ruled by Mercury- so one thing Moon in Virgo can develop is emotional intelligence. They learn and use what they learn to be emotionally smart. Another good aspect of the Virgo Moon is its ability to think things over; they would not jump into stupid impulsive conclusions about anything. They are usually soft spoken and clever people and loyal friends. Virgo also rules health- so emotional health may be something they care and know much about. I also noticed Virgo Moons can be good speakers, especially if they are teaching you about something- which they will. Sometimes, the Virgo Moon gets so warped up in analyzing things, it misses the whole point. So they need friends who can tell them they need to just let go, and enjoy. The Virgo Moon is sensual remember? So if given a chance they know how to have a good earthy fun- but only as long as it falls into their own set of rules. The rules are completely subjective, so you wouldn’t know what they are. One Virgo Moon I knew, would work all day, chattering and gossiping in between- he was a clean cut guy, the kind that never drinked or smoked in his life. But one day during a University lecture lunch he got very drunk, seemed to have a good time. Later I learned he did it only because it was University related – part of the rules. So don’t be surprised to meet a very wild Virgo Moon- behind that they are thinking things over, I promise you.

The Virgo Moon does have some trouble in love. They know what they want and don’t want- which is great. But sometimes the standards can seem completely irrational to other people. Like a girl I knew who would only date a guy who never wears shorts. A good partner for this Moon would be someone like a Pisces- who is more emotional and dreamy. Preferably with some small issue that the Virgo Moon can fix, but no big issues pleas- the Virgo Moon has way too many things keeping them busy and a messed up partner isn’t helpful.  I also see this Moon finds it easier in charts of Fire signs and harder with more earth signs in the chart. The Virgo Moon should develop a sense of spiritual place in the world, and try and see how they can make their dreams a practical reality- they are amazing at that. They should cultivate their natural emotional intelligence, which is a great gift and remember to have a little thought free fun.

The Complex art of Compatibility Charts

Today I am going to walk you through the first steps in reading a compatibility chart. Probably one of the most sought after readings in Astrology, because at the end of the day we all want the same thing- love, intimacy, friendship.

What they don’t tell you is how complicated such a reading can be. The amount of information and possibilities seen is no joke. The same aspects and sign placements can mean many different things. Nevertheless, some rules do apply and you can find out a great deal from such a chart about your relationship with the other person. Personally, I know more about Birth charts and Solar returns then this type of practice. Yet even I am not immune to its charms and practical use. Here too the Birth Chart is central if you want to figure things out, there are two main methods you can try:

 A. Look at the chart as if it’s the Birth chart of your relationship to each other. Just reading it according to the usual method.

B. Say you  are dating someone new and you want to know if this is a good relationship or not. What you need to do is study your chart and then his/her chart separately and then combine what you learn and compare it to the Compatibility Chart.

As you can guess I prefer the second method, it’s just more correct in my opinion. You don’t need to be a pro to do this- all you need is basic natal knowledge and the tools to apply it.

To help you here are some questions that can guide the process. First, find out what the relationship is like in style. For some background let’s say we have Jake and Mary and they are dating for a short period of time. They don’t know much about each other, but they both really want this to work.  Jake is an Aries with a Virgo Moon and Mary is a Capricorn with a Pisces Moon.  You look at the Chart and you see the Sun falls into Leo in 10th house and the Moon is in Virgo in the 6th. Though the rest of the chart should be considered in terms of style you already know that it’s more of a “work” relationship than a “romantic” one. This doesn’t mean they can’t fall in love and marry – not at all! It just means that the relationship is going to be more about working together and making goals and a daily routine then about fun adventures.

It is also very important to compare the signs to the Birth charts of the couple.  We know that Aries and Capricorn are worlds apart, but here we have opposite Moon’s In Virgo and Pisces. So Jake and Mary may feel that the other one has qualities that they wish they had. Jake may wish he could let go of analyzing his emotions and just feel and Mary may wish she could be less sensitive to criticism. The combined chart (as I call it) has a Moon in Virgo in the 6th house. Because Jake is a Virgo moon then a power struggle to have the relationship as he wants it to be may become a problem. You see- he may fall in love with Mary and feel amazing with her, but she may find it a bit harder to feel good. Unless they “work” on their emotions and home together or build a project that would enhance their careers. Emotionally this is not an easy partnership.

But let’s not give up and keep looking some more. Sun in Leo is somewhat fun and gives both of them time to breath- as long as they take pride in who they are by doing work. Next Venus and Mars are very important. Jake has his Venus in Taurus making him sensual and giving in love, but most importantly it makes him want women that are stable, practical, and classy- Just like Mary! Who is such a Capricorn that she does have some of these qualities: she is classy and practical, and Jake would like that about her. Jakes Mars is in Cancer which gets along amazingly with the opposite Capricorn in a sexual relationship.  So things are not as bad as a first glance would make you think. They might date and not get along at first but eventually over time they will enjoy each other.  What about Mary?  She had her Mars in Leo; she likes a partner who is confident, creative, energetic and maybe a little bossy. But most importantly she likes him to be open and have a big heart. Jake is an Aries and he is very much that- open, honest and proud. His very analytical nature would be forgiven as it helps Mary overcome her fears and deal with her dreams, turning them into reality. As a Capricorn she would like that very much. They both can have a nice business together maybe at home (Moon in the 10th house) and if they work as a team then this can be a very loving partnership.

This is just a very little example- but as you can see so many things need to be taken into account when trying to understand a relationship.

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Here is a check list that would help you:

Is the chart more about feelings? Planets in the 4th, 8th and 12th house. or Is it more about ideals? the 9th house or perhaps all about fun? look for planets In the 5th house.

Is it a harmonious relationship? Lots of Trines and sextiles, or a challenging one? Many squares and opposing planets.

Is Saturn well aspected? If yes it will be a long lasting relationship.  

Uranus may show you if a breaking up is a danger.  

Is it a soul-mate relationship- planets in the 7th house,8th and sometimes 12th. 

Does any of the partners have anger issues (Mars) or substance abuse (Neptune)?

I hope this helps, please remember that even a difficult chart can with some extra work signify a great relationship. It’s all about learning the weak and strong points for a better version of the chart.

Wish you love.

Lee